My 50th Birthday Un-Bucket List

My 50th Birthday Un-Bucket ListIt’s about to happen ya’ll! In just a few more tick-tocks, I’ll hit the BIG 5-0. Many have gone before me, as my friend Becca puts it, “to reach the fifth floor,” and have appeared to come out unscathed. I love the concept that aging is an upward process, rather than a steady decline.

But, just like on New Year’s Day, I have been feeling pressure to make sweeping changes and giant resolutions for this “milestone birthday.” Run a marathon, lose 30 pounds, write a novel, jump out of an airplane … it’s like I am supposed to prove to the world that age is just a number. Well, I am here to tell you, it ain’t! Fifty years of living should come with a trophy and a nap!

As I think about how to mark this step into half a century, I have some trepidation, because 1. I won’t have gone through some amazing transformation; and 2. historically, a few of my birthdays have involved unexpected trauma. So how do I make this birthday special, fun, and a celebration of my journey? I’ve landed on the “UnBucket List.”

My 50th Birthday Un-Bucket List

  1. I am not going to run a marathon. That would be an exercise in complete futility and likely go viral for all the wrong reasons. BUT, I am going to continue clunking around my women’s-only gym 3 times a week, where, not only do I have a bunch of like-bodied workout buddies, but I am also ensuring my bones are a little less creaky 20 years from now.
  2. I am not going to lose 30 pounds. No celebrity diets, no “As Seen On TV” pills, no special drinks that clean my gut. That would mean giving up a lot of things I enjoy, like food with flavor and holiday pies. BUT, I am going to continue watching my sodium and sugar, having veggies with every meal, and skipping fast food – except on road trips. Wendy’s fries always taste better on the highway…
  3. I am not going to write a novel. At least not right now. Although this one has always been in the back of my mind, I am officially taking the pressure off. BUT, I am going to continue blogging and reading and jotting down ideas as they come to me. That’s what is fun and fulfilling right now.
  4. I am not going to jump out of an airplane. I can barely board the ones that promise to keep their doors closed. Without a doubt, I would surely pass out and wet my pants before the word “GO!” BUT, I am going to hop on a bird for a fabulous trip with my husband out west, where we are going to zen out, hike a (small) mountain, and hit a winery or two.

So there you have it. I am not doing a darn thing different now that I am turning 50. I am going to look at myself in the mirror, sags and all, and congratulate myself on a job well done. I am going to acknowledge all the hard work, the mistakes, and the growth that has gotten me to this exact place and rejoice in it.

I am going to stop wasting time trying to be perfect and just appreciate the imperfect 50-year-old me.

My 50th Birthday Un-Bucket List

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Alison is a Florida transplant who came to Atlanta just in time for the '96 Olympics. She married her husband Travis that same year and is the proud mama of daughter Carolyn, 23, and son Emory, 20. She is a self-employed web and graphic designer, rooster art collector, and squirrel enthusiast. She enjoys blogging, watching her kids follow their dreams, and spending as much time as possible on her back deck.


  1. Much love to your ambitious mind for your 50 th birthday celebration ! Blessings to succeed in the next chapter of life ! Happiness is wished
    For your energetic family and I pray for
    Peace , patience and good times for each of you as you enjoy good health and gods best blessings ! I appreciate our family memories of yester year !!! Love you !!

  2. Welcome to the club! Happiest of birthdays to u! And wishing u many more years of plotting ur own path!

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