Mother’s Day: A Journey of Finding One’s Self

Mother’s Day: A Journey of Finding One’s Self
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This Mother’s Day, one of our contributing writers, Dr. Marian Muldrow, is sharing her personal journey of finding herself as she became a mother.

I sit before flowers
hoping they will train me in the art
of opening up.
I stand on mountain tops believing
that avalanches will teach me to let go.
I know
but I am here to learn.
– Shane Koyczan

When I was pregnant with my first child, I remember thinking this is the most exciting and terrifying time of my life. I was excited because I was carrying another person in my body. I was terrified because I was carrying another person in my body. For those nine months, I learned more about myself, my capacity to love another person, and how beautiful and strong I am inside and out, all of which I had struggled with most of my life.Mother’s Day: A Journey of Finding One’s Self

Love for Myself

While pregnant with my children, it was vital for me to take care of my body and be more aware of what I was putting into it. As I watched my body expand for my babies, I realized my ability to make sound decisions to maintain a healthy environment. That grew into a love that extended to me. I didn’t understand what it meant to take time to love myself before kids. I only wanted others to know that they were important, and I was often an afterthought to myself.

Capacity to Love

Some of the best parts of our lives have yet to happen and for that, I am eternally excited. I embrace being a mom and all the wonder and excitement that comes with it. I love my children with an intensity and fire that I never knew existed before them. They give me the strength to work when I am tired, breathe when I feel suffocated, and be free when I feel confined. They have saved me from destruction more times than I can count. I hope one day they are aware of a fraction of the inexplicable bliss they bring to my heart.

Beauty and Strength

“I am mine / before I am ever anyone else’s” are lines from a poem by Nayyirah Waheed and are the epitome of what I felt once I learned and understood my strength and self-worth. While I am many things, I tend to be none of them entirely. It took me time to realize that I will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too smart, too unsure, too brave, and too fearful. I apologize for my mistakes, but I won’t apologize for being who I am. This Mother’s Day and every day, my children teach me that it’s okay to make mistakes, laugh at yourself, and try again.

This life we are living is hypersensitive. And, I’m feeling every pulse, every beat, every moment. I couldn’t be more pleased. In life, there will be moments when we will be lost and unlost over and over again. Yet, it is in these moments that we must rest assured that it’s okay to let life happen. Being a mom is challenging, rewarding, exciting, and terrifying. I’m equally thrilled for each of these different moments. On Mother’s Day, my gifts are my children, and their presence and persistence have given me more than I ever thought I deserved. They are the best parts of me and the better parts of what I can become. I am blessed, honored, and pleased to be Kingston Zion and Marlee Love’s mom. My kids are my heroes, today and always.

Mother’s Day is an occasion celebrated in various parts of the world to express respect, honor, and love toward mothers. This is also a day for mothers to be proud and confident in themselves and all they have to offer their kids, their community, and themselves.

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Marian Muldrow
Marian lives in Dallas, Ga with her husband, Carl, and their two kids, Kingston and Marlee. Marian holds a doctorate degree in Higher Education Leadership and Administration from Georgia Southern University along with four degrees from the University of West Georgia. She works as a senior executive at an Atlanta-based management consulting firm and as a part-time Associate Professor of English. Marian has been a published writer for the last 15 years as well as written professionally for several corporate websites, blogs, and social media platforms. When she isn't reading or writing, Marian enjoys traveling and trying new foods and absorbing various cultures with her husband and kids. They've visited more than a dozen countries and been all across North America.