This is my honest response every time someone asks me if I want a daughter or if I’m going to try for a girl. I have three boys, and you wouldn’t believe how many times I’ve been asked if I want a daughter. When I announced I was having my third son, many people sent well wishes. However, there were a few people who said, “Congratulations” and promptly said, “You must be disappointed you’re having another boy” or “Another boy? Are you going to try for a girl?”
Again my response was the same.
“No. I don’t want a daughter.”
Or my other most used response which I would say before my son was born, “How about I give birth to my son first before I’m asked this question.”
My responses may sound a bit aggressive, but it just baffles me so many people would ask me if I wanted to try for a girl or if I was disappointed because I had another son. It was especially irritating when I would be asked those questions before my son was even born. It was as if I was supposed to be upset I was having a boy. I’m sure most people didn’t mean any harm with their question, but it does get annoying when I’m always asked that question.
Don’t get me wrong if I were to have a daughter, I’d be happy. I’d be just as excited to have a daughter just as I was excited to have my sons. Honestly, I thought my third son was a girl. Being pregnant with him felt so different compared to when I was pregnant with my older sons. So I did worry a bit at the thought of possibly having a daughter. I was used to raising boys and wondered how different it may be to raise boys and a girl. When I found out I was pregnant with my third son, I felt relieved. I was excited to have another boy and that my older boys would have a little brother.
I’m grateful to be a mom of boys. My boys have taught me so much. I love how carefree they are, their love for adventures, and getting messy.
So no, I don’t want or need a daughter. I take it as a sign that I was destined to have sons. I think I was meant to have sons and that’s totally ok with me.
Well said Emily. I have a daughter and I wouldn’t replace her for anything. I think that’s one of the most exciting things during pregnancy…waiting and wondering what little life you’re about to meet and love whatever they are like and whether they are a girl or a boy.