We all have our ideas of the trajectory of our lives – after kids, we will carry on with our exciting careers, friendships, and carefree lifestyle.
According to Instagram, some moms have managed to do this – all the while staying impossibly fashionable, fit, and juggling a brood of well-dressed well-behaved children!
Well, I’m happy to report that my values, goals, and trajectory have changed in a way I had never imagined before becoming a mom, and it’s far from what I thought it would look like. Sometimes I even remark to myself – I never thought I would do these things, or find myself in these situations, but I’m happier for it.
Here are 6 things I never thought I’d do before becoming a mom.
- Eschew Adventure – I have never been overly adventurous, but I have traveled to far-flung places by myself without any trepidation. Call it motherly inclination – I try to avoid unnecessary travel, especially to remote areas, and I will unlikely try bungee jumping – and there’s no FOMO here.
- Shop for Clothing at Costco – Feeling entitled and privileged in my La Perla, I once scoffed at women who purchased (and wore) underwear and clothing from big box retailers like Costco. Now I am proud to pick up a box of underwear along with a case of milk and eggs at my friendly neighborhood Costco.
- Take Pleasure in Staying In – When I was single and looking, I viewed my weekends as work – I had to go out at all costs. It was unheard of to stay home on a Saturday night, and going out lost its luster. Now it takes a very special event for me to put the effort into getting dressed up to “go out”, and I’m ok with that.
- Guard My Time – Before kids, the luxury of having extra time seemed endless. I remember spending hours on the phone with friends. Now I like my phone conversations short and to the point. I can’t be bothered with a phone call that lasts for over 15 minutes.
- Strive for Simplicity – This is an art. Back before kids, we looked to fill our lives, homes, and closets with endless stuff. Now I just want to get rid of the stuff and have a clear mind, and focus on the simple things that make me feel happy and present.
- Focus on Family – There was a time when I juggled a full-time job that I loved and tried to manage a family. Something had to give, and that was career goals. I do miss certain elements of those times, but soon realized that at the office I’m just a number and can be easily replaced, and at home my presence is priceless. Once I realized this, my focus changed entirely.
How did your trajectory change from before becoming a mom? Share in the comments below!